Truth is nobody is unbreakable. There are only strong people. Those who aren’t afraid of exploring the unknown and taking difficult situations in an admirable manner. Most likely, these people get to be that way by already experiencing the ‘tough’ and learning to cope. However, is it possible that you jump from one to another constantly, thus becoming stronger and stronger?
My theory is that it’s not, at least not to a never-ending extent. Such experience is crucial in the growing process, but after a while we start losing other invaluable things: patience, tolerance, humility, health. Why else do stressed professionals get heart attacks?
What one may pick up on the way though is bitterness and sarcasm. Think of any bitter person you know and try to figure out where it all came from. This is also a good exercise of allowing someone to tell their story because admit it or not, everybody needs to bring it out there, just not to anyone. Be the ‘someone’, the truly empathetic one. Help them get it out of their system and cleanse. Don’t forget to learn from it. Each story matters and teaches. Only the ability to find the moral of the story differs.
So how do we save ourselves from reaching a breaking point, which will ultimately take an important piece of us?
- Be alert.
Be alert to what’s important to you. Eliminate any unnecessary worry and see the big picture. By focusing on the big picture, you’ll eventually realize how insignificant those tiny daily annoyances are and you’ll gradually discard them altogether.
- Take control of the things you can.
Sounds pretty straightforward, but easy to overlook when overwhelmed.
- Avoid multiple repetitions.
Nothing can bring you closer to the breaking point than repeating the same mistakes/getting into the same situation over and over again. You may get angry with yourself and divert from the real problem. Being your own enemy is the worst.
- Save energy.
Nothing can prepare you for the unexpected. But if you keep wasting your energy on little disturbances, you’ll be completely exhausted for the time when you most need it.
The secret to get stronger, yet not reach a breaking point is to know where your line is. Nobody can deny that it’s brave to fight. Yet, sometimes the strongest thing to do is to know when to stop. Draw that line. Show your strength by standing up and making a choice for yourself.
Do you know where your breaking point is? What have you learned from past experiences?